I have a problem with words, and I know that. Words have the ability to bother me a lot more than they should. Like when people use phrases like “I grilled him for answers,” that bugs the hell out of me. I’m always like, “shut up, you didn’t grill anyone, what is wrong with you? Why would you think cooking someone would make him want to talk to you?” Another thing is when people say things like “ugh, she’s being so bipolar right now,” have you heard anything like that? I think a more common one is that same thing, but with OCD. Being on your period doesn’t make you bipolar anymore than having a knack for organization makes you obsessive compulsive. Do you see what I’m getting at?
I think that’s why all these remarks that Cynthia Nixon has been making about being gay have bothered me so much. She’s been using the wrong words, and it doesn’t make sense to me.
In her continued campaign to drive me crazy, Cynthia has made a statement to the Advocate in which she discusses her original comments in the New York Times about choosing to be gay:
“My recent comments in The New York Times were about me and my personal story of being gay. I believe we all have different ways we came to the gay community and we can’t and shouldn’t be pigeon-holed into one cultural narrative which can be uninclusive and disempowering. However, to the extent that anyone wishes to interpret my words in a strictly legal context I would like to clarify:
“While I don’t often use the word, the technically precise term for my orientation is bisexual. I believe bisexuality is not a choice, it is a fact. What I have ‘chosen’ is to be in a gay relationship.
“As I said in the Times and will say again here, I do, however, believe that most members of our community — as well as the majority of heterosexuals — cannot and do not choose the gender of the persons with whom they seek to have intimate relationships because, unlike me, they are only attracted to one sex.
“Our community is not a monolith, thank goodness, any more than America itself is. I look forward to and will continue to work toward the day when America recognizes all of us as full and equal citizens.”
Ok, one last time: there is nothing wrong with being bisexual. There is nothing wrong with being attracted to men and women, or strictly men, or strictly women. There is nothing wrong with being attracted to men and then meeting a woman and finding that something just clicks with her. There is nothing wrong with any of this, but there are words for all of this.
I’m glad that Cynthia Nixon is happy and in love, just like I’m glad that anyone is happy and in love. But please just stop driving everyone crazy with these statements, all right?
I think that she should feel free to describe how she feels about her sexuality however she wants. She makes it clear that she isnt trying to generalize her own perspective to other members of the lgtb community. She should be allowed her own perspective without having to make it more digestible for others.