I have a problem with words, and I know that. Words have the ability to bother me a lot more than they should. Like when people use phrases like “I grilled him for answers,” that bugs the hell out of me. I’m always like, “shut up, you didn’t grill anyone, what is wrong with you? Why would you think cooking someone would make him want to talk to you?” Another thing is when people say things like “ugh, she’s being so bipolar right now,” have you heard anything like that? I think a more common one is that same thing, but with OCD. Being on your period doesn’t make you bipolar anymore than having a knack for organization makes you obsessive compulsive. Do you see what I’m getting at?
In her continued campaign to drive me crazy, Cynthia has made a statement to the Advocate in which she discusses her original comments in the New York Times about choosing to be gay:
“My recent comments in The New York Times were about me and my personal story of being gay. I believe we all have different ways we came to the gay community and we can’t and shouldn’t be pigeon-holed into one cultural narrative which can be uninclusive and disempowering. However, to the extent that anyone wishes to interpret my words in a strictly legal context I would like to clarify:
“While I don’t often use the word, the technically precise term for my orientation is bisexual. I believe bisexuality is not a choice, it is a fact. What I have ‘chosen’ is to be in a gay relationship.
“As I said in the Times and will say again here, I do, however, believe that most members of our community — as well as the majority of heterosexuals — cannot and do not choose the gender of the persons with whom they seek to have intimate relationships because, unlike me, they are only attracted to one sex.
“Our community is not a monolith, thank goodness, any more than America itself is. I look forward to and will continue to work toward the day when America recognizes all of us as full and equal citizens.”
Ok, one last time: there is nothing wrong with being bisexual. There is nothing wrong with being attracted to men and women, or strictly men, or strictly women. There is nothing wrong with being attracted to men and then meeting a woman and finding that something just clicks with her. There is nothing wrong with any of this, but there are words for all of this.
I’m glad that Cynthia Nixon is happy and in love, just like I’m glad that anyone is happy and in love. But please just stop driving everyone crazy with these statements, all right?
January 30, 2012 at 4:30 pm by Emily
Remember a couple of days ago when I told you guys all about how Cynthia Nixon believes that homosexuality, for some people, is a choice? There were a lot of different opinions on it because it was kind of a weird thing to say. Luckily for us, Cynthia is continuing to speak out on the topic, so let’s go ahead and analyze this some more, shall we?
The interviewer’s questions are bolded:
You’ve been quoted as saying about these two relationships in your life: “In terms of sexual orientation, I don’t really feel I’ve changed … I’ve been with men all my life and I’d never fallen in love with a woman. But when I did, it didn’t seem so strange. I’m just a woman in love with another woman.” I’m a bit confused. Were you a lesbian in a heterosexual relationship? Or are you now a heterosexual in a lesbian relationship? That quote seemed like you were fudging a bit.
It’s so not fudging. It’s so not. I think for gay people who feel 100 percent gay, it doesn’t make any sense. And for straight people who feel 100 percent straight, it doesn’t make any sense. I don’t pull out the “bisexual” word because nobody likes the bisexuals. Everybody likes to dump on the bisexuals.
But it is the “B” in LGBT.
I know. But we get no respect.
You just said “we,” so you must self-identify as one.
I just don’t like to pull out that word. But I do completely feel that when I was in relationships with men, I was in love and in lust with those men. And then I met Christine and I fell in love and lust with her. I am completely the same person and I was not walking around in some kind of fog. I just responded to the people in front of me the way I truly felt.
This whole thing just sort of bothers me, and judging by your comments and by other people’s comments around the web, it bothers a lot of other people as well. And I know that it’s her choice, and of course she can call herself whatever she wants to call herself, but it’s just bothersome, that’s all.
If she’s bisexual (and she is), then what’s so bad about being bisexual? And how awful is it that you don’t call yourself bisexual because “nobody likes the bisexuals,” how is that ok? Do you think if some dude who liked to sleep with other dudes said “I’m physically and emotionally attracted to men, but I don’t like to use the word ‘gay,’ because nobody likes the gays,” that it would be all right?
And I know that sexuality is a continuum, and there’s rarely such a thing as completely straight or completely gay, but listen. If you’re a woman who has only had relationships with men your whole life, and those relationships were fulfilling and you were happy and satisfied and you felt comfortable and so pleased with that, then that’s wonderful. Then if you meet a woman who you’re attracted to and you begin a relationship with her, that’s great too. I’m happy for you. But that’s not being a lesbian, that’s just not. That counts out all the other guys you’ve ever been with, and that’s not fair.
Not to mention, every lesbian I’ve ever met couldn’t even fathom the thought of enjoying a penis, at all, in any sense, ever.
To say that your sexuality is a choice is, in my opinion, a pretty risky thing to say. A kid could read that and go “oh, ok, I thought I was gay, but I’m going to go ahead and make a choice to be straight.” A crazy like Victoria Jackson could take that and run with it so hard. And I’m all for making your own choices and not letting other people define you, but Cynthia Nixon is just getting on my nerves with all this.
January 26, 2012 at 6:30 am by Emily
Man oh man, you guys. Normally I wouldn’t really think to tell you guys about what Cynthia Nixon is up to these days, because, come on, it’s not like it’s 2002 and everyone is creaming herself (or himself, let’s be fair) over Sex and the City. Just in case you’re curious though, Cynthia Nixon is currently preparing to star in a run of that wonderful, touching play Wit, which opens on Broadway this week. She’s also making some pretty controversial statements about her sexuality, which is what I want to focus on right now. Don’t get me wrong, I would love to go on and on about Wit, but we’re talking celebrity gossip here, not theatre. No, we can talk about theatre in the comments (hint).
Anyway, here’s some background about Cynthia Nixon. She was with a man named Danny Mozes for fifteen years. The couple had two children together before they broke up in 2003. Then, in 2004, she began dating a woman named Christina Marinoni. Those two are still together, they’re engaged, and they have a son together. Got it?
Ok, now let’s talk about this interview that Cynthia just did with the New York Times. Among other things, Cynthia commented on homosexuality, which she considers to be a choice in some cases. Here’s what she had to say about the reaction her relatonship has gotten from some people who “find her midlife switch in sexual orientation disingenuous,” ready?
“I totally reject that,” she said heatedly. “I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line ‘I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.’ And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me. A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if it’s a choice, then we could opt out. I say it doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not.” Her face was red and her arms were waving. “As you can tell,” she said, “I am very annoyed about this issue. Why can’t it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems we’re just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I don’t think that they should define the terms of the debate. I also feel like people think I was walking around in a cloud and didn’t realize I was gay, which I find really offensive. I find it offensive to me, but I also find it offensive to all the men I’ve been out with.”
What do you guys think about all this? Is homosexuality ever a choice, and is Cynthia hurting more than helping by suggesting that it is?
January 24, 2012 at 5:30 pm by Emily
So, the SATC premiere was last night in New York City. I didn’t go ’cause I was too busy watching the series finale of 24, but made sure I caught up with the SATC ladies this morning, paying homage to the mostly-fabulous dresses. And damn, some of those dresses — like, really. But then again, what else would you expect from a movie that’s so heavily-rooted in fashion?
I’m probably going to have to go and admit that
Carrie Sarah Jessica Parker was probably the best dressed of the night. There’s just something so viscerally pleasing about chartreuse with grey heels. Stellar. And the night, naturally, was just filled with fashion cameos — Bo Derek showed up looking like … well, looking like she was going to clean a yacht rather than attend a big-name movie premiere. And then there was Petra Nemacova, who looked all of twelve years old, and Michelle Trachtenberg, who appeared rather pissed off that she looked like sausage in torn casing in her dress.
While I thoroughly expected Kim Catrall to look the best of all of the SATC ladies, she totally looked the worst — definitely more like 60 year-old drag-queen that forgot his Spanx at home than the hot, hot woman I’ve come to love since her plastic part on Mannequin.
Oh, and Jennifer Love Hewitt … I totally think you’re an asshat, but you looked pretty damn great last night, I can’t deny.
Check out the photos in the gallery from last night’s events and after party.
May 25, 2010 at 6:44 am by Sarah
I am issuing a restrained congratulations to Cynthia Nixon, who announced her engagement to her girlfriend, Christine Marinoni, over the weekend while campaigning for same-sex marriage in New York. The congratulations is restrained because, although I am very excited for the happy couple and very much believe that any consenting adult should have the right to marry any other consenting adult, I don’t understand why anyone would want to marry a consenting adult who looks like a 12-year-old boy from an Adam Sandler film. But, hey, to each his own, right?
Congrats to Cynthia and Christine! I very much hope you two have the opportunity to wed in New York in the near future.
This got me thinking. Two of my friends here in Seattle got married over the weekend in New York City. They got back last night and showed me the photos today. It was a gorgeous and private wedding in Central Park, complete with a romantic carriage ride. They both came back glowing. They’ve been a couple for five years, they complement each other perfectly, they respect and honor and care for one another, and one of them is black and the other is white. In 1948, New York would have been one of a handful of U.S. states in which they could have been legally married. It was 1967 before all U.S. states allowed interracial marriage. When we look back on that today, it seems insane and ancient that we would have laws prohibiting a beautiful, loving couple like my friends from getting married. It is my hope that, to my children, bans on same-sex marriage will seem equally distant and silly.
May 18, 2009 at 1:33 am by Evil Beet
The Yoplait Save Lids to Save Lives campaign donates ten cents to Susan G. Komen for the CureÂ©Â for each pink foil Yoplait container lid that isÂ mailed toÂ them.Â It’s a great cause and an easy way to contribute.Â Who doesn’t eat yogurt anyway?Â Well I don’t but I’m no poster child for normalcy.Â And come to think of it, can you imagine if your job was to open all those incoming envelopes of lids?Â Â Gross!Â Because you know people lick those lids, put them in an envelope and mail ‘em out all in the name of cancer research.Â And I cannot deal with unknown DNA.Â It’s what killed my career in porn.Â Sorry…so…last night was the 10th Anniversary celebration of this program and lots of stars turned out.Â
I was a bit alarmed when I saw the pictures of Cynthia Nixon.Â WasÂ she always this thin?Â She looks like she could stand to eat a Yoplait to help save her life.Â I’m dramatizing but she is thin.Â Also,Â IÂ feel, as a public service announcement, I need to tell Sheryl Crow that there comes a time in every woman’s life when sheÂ must start wearing a bra.Â For me, it was at twelve.Â For you Sheryl, today is your day.
Â Other celebs who arrived for thisÂ worthwhile causeÂ include Kristin Davis, David Arquette, Laura Dern, Rita Wilson, Kelly Lynch, Rosanna Arquette and Kelly Kapowski Samantha Harris.Â And please, a moment of silence for Judy Tenuta’s face as we used to know it.Â I always thought she was so beautiful.