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Cynthia Nixon Thinks The First Sex And The City Film Is “Disheartening”

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Cynthia Nixon, who played Miranda in the Sex and the City television show and subsequent 3 movies, has a new outlook on the first Sex and the City film, and it’s not very positive. Though she is still “‘proud of what [the show] did for women’” she expressed disappointment over certain aspects of the film. Via ONTD:

I remember when we screened the first movie in London, when Mr. Big shows Carrie that closet he’s built for her and the entire audience clapped. I found that devastating. Maybe that’s a strong word, but I was disheartened. Because I thought: ‘Is this what these women in the audience think true love is? A man who has enough money to buy you a walk-in closet?

Yeah, I get what she’s saying, but…f-ck, that closet.

An article in The New Yorker had the same issue.

Mr. Big not only buys [Carrie] a penthouse apartment (“I got it”), he offers to customize the space for her shoes and other fetishes. “I can build you a better closet,” he says, as if that were a binding condition of their sexual harmony: if he builds it, she will come. The creepiest aspect of this sequence was the sound that rose from the audience as he displayed the finished closet: gasps, fluttering moans, and, beside me, two women applauding. The tactic here is basically pornographic—arouse the viewer with image upon image of what lies just beyond her reach…

Damn. I guess it’s harsh (but maybe true?) articles like these that pissed off Chris Noth.

Cynthia Nixon Is Still Talking

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I have a problem with words, and I know that. Words have the ability to bother me a lot more than they should. Like when people use phrases like “I grilled him for answers,” that bugs the hell out of me. I’m always like, “shut up, you didn’t grill anyone, what is wrong with you? Why would you think cooking someone would make him want to talk to you?” Another thing is when people say things like “ugh, she’s being so bipolar right now,” have you heard anything like that? I think a more common one is that same thing, but with OCD. Being on your period doesn’t make you bipolar anymore than having a knack for organization makes you obsessive compulsive. Do you see what I’m getting at?

I think that’s why all these remarks that Cynthia Nixon has been making about being gay have bothered me so much. She’s been using the wrong words, and it doesn’t make sense to me.

In her continued campaign to drive me crazy, Cynthia has made a statement to the Advocate in which she discusses her original comments in the New York Times about choosing to be gay:

“My recent comments in The New York Times were about me and my personal story of being gay. I believe we all have different ways we came to the gay community and we can’t and shouldn’t be pigeon-holed into one cultural narrative which can be uninclusive and disempowering. However, to the extent that anyone wishes to interpret my words in a strictly legal context I would like to clarify:

“While I don’t often use the word, the technically precise term for my orientation is bisexual. I believe bisexuality is not a choice, it is a fact. What I have ‘chosen’ is to be in a gay relationship.

“As I said in the Times and will say again here, I do, however, believe that most members of our community — as well as the majority of heterosexuals — cannot and do not choose the gender of the persons with whom they seek to have intimate relationships because, unlike me, they are only attracted to one sex.

“Our community is not a monolith, thank goodness, any more than America itself is. I look forward to and will continue to work toward the day when America recognizes all of us as full and equal citizens.”

Ok, one last time: there is nothing wrong with being bisexual. There is nothing wrong with being attracted to men and women, or strictly men, or strictly women. There is nothing wrong with being attracted to men and then meeting a woman and finding that something just clicks with her. There is nothing wrong with any of this, but there are words for all of this.

I’m glad that Cynthia Nixon is happy and in love, just like I’m glad that anyone is happy and in love. But please just stop driving everyone crazy with these statements, all right?

Cynthia Nixon Is Still Talking About Homosexuality

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Remember a couple of days ago when I told you guys all about how Cynthia Nixon believes that homosexuality, for some people, is a choice? There were a lot of different opinions on it because it was kind of a weird thing to say. Luckily for us, Cynthia is continuing to speak out on the topic, so let’s go ahead and analyze this some more, shall we?

The interviewer’s questions are bolded:

You’ve been quoted as saying about these two relationships in your life: “In terms of sexual orientation, I don’t really feel I’ve changed … I’ve been with men all my life and I’d never fallen in love with a woman. But when I did, it didn’t seem so strange. I’m just a woman in love with another woman.” I’m a bit confused. Were you a lesbian in a heterosexual relationship? Or are you now a heterosexual in a lesbian relationship? That quote seemed like you were fudging a bit.

It’s so not fudging. It’s so not. I think for gay people who feel 100 percent gay, it doesn’t make any sense. And for straight people who feel 100 percent straight, it doesn’t make any sense. I don’t pull out the “bisexual” word because nobody likes the bisexuals. Everybody likes to dump on the bisexuals.

But it is the “B” in LGBT.

I know. But we get no respect.

You just said “we,” so you must self-identify as one.

I just don’t like to pull out that word. But I do completely feel that when I was in relationships with men, I was in love and in lust with those men. And then I met Christine and I fell in love and lust with her. I am completely the same person and I was not walking around in some kind of fog. I just responded to the people in front of me the way I truly felt.

This whole thing just sort of bothers me, and judging by your comments and by other people’s comments around the web, it bothers a lot of other people as well. And I know that it’s her choice, and of course she can call herself whatever she wants to call herself, but it’s just bothersome, that’s all.

If she’s bisexual (and she is), then what’s so bad about being bisexual? And how awful is it that you don’t call yourself bisexual because “nobody likes the bisexuals,” how is that ok? Do you think if some dude who liked to sleep with other dudes said “I’m physically and emotionally attracted to men, but I don’t like to use the word ‘gay,’ because nobody likes the gays,” that it would be all right?

And I know that sexuality is a continuum, and there’s rarely such a thing as completely straight or completely gay, but listen. If you’re a woman who has only had relationships with men your whole life, and those relationships were fulfilling and you were happy and satisfied and you felt comfortable and so pleased with that, then that’s wonderful. Then if you meet a woman who you’re attracted to and you begin a relationship with her, that’s great too. I’m happy for you. But that’s not being a lesbian, that’s just not. That counts out all the other guys you’ve ever been with, and that’s not fair.

Not to mention, every lesbian I’ve ever met couldn’t even fathom the thought of enjoying a penis, at all, in any sense, ever.

To say that your sexuality is a choice is, in my opinion, a pretty risky thing to say. A kid could read that and go “oh, ok, I thought I was gay, but I’m going to go ahead and make a choice to be straight.” A crazy like Victoria Jackson could take that and run with it so hard. And I’m all for making your own choices and not letting other people define you, but Cynthia Nixon is just getting on my nerves with all this.

Thoughts?