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Debra Messing Has ‘Divorce Guilt’, Wanted To Raise Son In a Traditional Family

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Good ole Debra Messing, eh? You may remember that she announced her separation and divorce from husband Daniel Zelman last summer, but they continued to live together for the sake of their young son. I imagine that weird ass situation has since been remedied, but Debra has broken her… non-silence or whatever to say that she has “guilt” over her decision to end the marriage because she wants her son to grow up in a traditional family. Uh huh.

From More (via DS):

“Part of me will always contend with guilt that I wasn’t able to give my son the fantasy that my parents were able to give me,” she commented.

The actress went on to express relief that the media’s interest in her personal life has been tempered as she has grown older.

“The media has a different interest in me than when I was 30,” she said. “It’s more about the journey, lessons and perspective, and that’s something I’m much more comfortable sharing.”

I mean, I sorta gotta give a big ole fuuuuuuuuuuuck her for the whole traditional family fantasy thing. Two parents are great, sure, but two parents can live apart, or two parents can become four parents if they remarry, and two parents can be two men or two women or a man or a woman or two parents can be one parent and the kid can have a GREAT childhood so long as he’s loved and cared for. Yes, everyone’s free to have their preferences and blah blah blah but lady… what an ignorant ass thing to say. And I generally sorta like Debra Messing!

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  • I dunno, I can get what she is saying. My parents are still marred and I had a childhood with one home and one family unit. That’s something I really want to provide for my kids, I want them to have an even better childhood than I did. And if my childhood included married parents, but then my child didn’t grow up with that, I would feel some guilt. It’s not rational guilt, but I can definitely see where she’s coming from.

  • exactly! i get what she’s saying too. that is her PREFERENCE. she’s allowed to wish she had been able to provide her son with the same type of family environment that she had and is familiar to her. i kind of think that jennifer is an angry judgmental bitch. it’s not that fun reading this site anymore.

    • THIS. except not kind of, she’s a full on snob. I get that gossip writers are supposed to be catty but it’s just straight negativity and mean, nasty comments about everyone. I agree, this site has gone way downhill.
      (still diggin catherine st ives though!)

  • I have this site on my desktop as a favorite but lately I have been thinking I may have to take it off. After Jennifer’s defense of Lil Wayne stomping on the flag and now this, I think this site has gone a different direction. It’s a lot meaner. If that’s a attempt to be edgy, mean doesn’t mean edgy. It’s just mean. All of this is my opinion and it is not a personal attack on anyone.

  • With 50% of marriages ending in divorce, I don’t think we can call couples that stay together a “traditional family” anymore. Additionally, many families benefit after a divorce because children are no longer around anger and yelling. Staying together just for the kids is teaching those kids bad relationship skills. Parting ways isn’t losing or giving up. Sometimes it is winning. (I don’t have kids and have never been married. My parents divorced when I was one so I always knew them as divorced. My mother and alcoholic step father got divorced when I was 10. My dad and stepmother hate each other and should have gotten divorced a long time ago but are still together.)

  • Speaking as someone who comes from a divorced parent home, things were definitely easier when my parents were together. Why would you hate on someone for having an opinion that is different from your own?

  • I certainly wouldn’t say that wanting to provide your child with a two-parent home is an “ignorant ass” goal. It sounds like Debra had a happy childhood with her mom and dad being together, and she had hoped to provide her son with the same. Ideally, kids do thrive when they have 2 parents who live together and work as a team to raise them, no matter if the two parents are a man and a woman, two men, or two women. I was widowed at age 27 when my son was 2, and there’s not a single day that goes by without me wishing that he had had the chance to have both of his parents raise him. If that’s ignorant ass to you, so be it.

  • Then why did she cheat on hubby, and get anorexic to the point of near death.. sooooo, self absorbed in her own career and ignoring her family to 24/7 publicity promoting herself into a major star..

    • Now THAT is ignorance. I don’t know much about this woman, but I do know that anorexia is an extremely complicated and misunderstood illness; unless you have experienced living with an eating disorder you should keep your mouth shut about it and don’t assume she’s just self-absorbed. You don’t know the woman or the details about what she has gone through. People(even or especially celebrities)can do stupid shit when they’re going through difficult times.