Ruth Wilson just won a Golden Globe for her work on The Affair, a show in which she, well, frankly, shows a lot of boob. But she’s insisting it’s not just for the hell of it, while also making a good point about how we don’t see male nudity the same way we see female nudity. It’s kind of a “duh” point, but still, it made me think, so maybe it will give you something to process, too.

Anyway, here’s what the Brit (it blows my mind that she’s British), told Net-a-Porter’s magazine, via PEOPLE:

These [sex] scenes need to be real and they need to have a narrative as much as any other scene. They can’t be purely titillation. They need to move the story forward and the characters forward.

[...] It’s assumed that women will get their breasts out, and have to get their breasts out, and I balk at that. It’s unnecessary and it’s unfair.

Why have I always got to do the orgasm face? There should be a male orgasm face. Why is it always the woman who’s orgasming? Let’s analyze the male orgasm. Why aren’t we thinking about that a bit more?

Okay so I totally get her point here, and I think it’s unfair that we expect women to show their boobs onscreen, but we never see dong, or men orgasming, the way we see women orgasming, I guess. But then again, for real, part of me is like, if you hate this so much and disagree with it so much, stop doing it. You’re the one who signed on to a Showtime show in which you’re naked in like half the episode, every episode. You just won an award for it, and it’s paying your bills. So if you hate it so much, cut it out. You know? Is that petty of me?

Anyway, have you been watching The Affair? Frankly, I freakin love it. What did you guys think of the finale? SPOILERS — BEWARE — I thought it was excellent. That twist of seeing her and Noah together, with presumably a baby, was just kind of mind-blowing, and then he gets arrested? Rad. Where is this gonna go? I can’t wait!