I don’t really know where to begin with this one, as it’s a bit of a doozy. Is it annoying that any time a female celebrity sits down to do an interview, they’re asked if they consider themselves a feminist? Sure, of course it is – particularly because men should be asked the same damn question (moreso than women, I’d say) and second of all because you’d think, duh, if you’re a woman, you’ve obviously got to be a feminist if you have a brain in your head that works, right? I suppose Kaley Cuoco is the exception to that rule, however, because she wouldn’t call herself a feminist at all – after all, she loves serving her husband, Ryan Sweeting.
Here’s what she had to say when Redbook asked her if she’s a feminist:
“Is it bad if I say no? It’s not really something I think about. Things are different now, and I know a lot of the work that paved the way for women happened before I was around… I was never that feminist girl demanding equality, but maybe that’s because I’ve never faced inequality. I cook for Ryan five nights a week: it makes me feel like a housewife; I love that. I know it sounds old-fashioned, but I like the idea of women taking care of their men. I’m so in control of work that I like coming home and serving him. My mom was like that, so I think it kind of rubbed off.”
Ugh, this is a toughie. Firstly, being a real feminist means that I kinda have to accept the fact that she doesn’t consider herself one. Also, feminism means a woman chooses what she wants to do, so if Kaley wants to “serve” her man, then that’s just fine and dandy. Live your life, girl.
On the other hand, how ignorant is this chick? Like, “I was never that feminist girl demanding equality”? Uh… at least she has the sense to realize that she’s pretty fucking privileged, considering she’s a white girl with blonde hair from an upper class family – what equality did she need to demand? It’s a privilege that she doesn’t have to think about it, but just because something hasn’t touched you personally (that she realizes – it only hasn’t touched her BECAUSE so many people have fought for her right to ignorance) doesn’t mean you can’t still support it. I’m privileged because I’m white, middle class, American, etc – it doesn’t mean I don’t empathize with those outside of that bracket.
I’m always baffled but the extreme stupidity of people, but it is Kaley Cuoco we’re talking about here, so I suppose I shouldn’t be surprised. No wonder she hates the sound of her own voice. I’m with her on that one, and I’m only reading it in print.
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Oh my gosh! I nearly spit out my coffee laughing at this.
Spot on!!
Kaley decided to marry someone who was gonna leetch off her as long as he can. So she was OK with that. She’s beautiful has more money than she will ever need and the only thing she wants to be is barefoot and preggers. Whatever rows your boat .
at least she accepts that she doesnt care about that and is not faking it, why would you expect everyone to think like you do?
When you are married a while you get this. If you are really really in love- wanting to serve just comes out of you, but it does for the man too, so it’s equal. People who are bonded very deeply feel this- if you don’t or haven’t felt this way or ‘cant belive; anyone can- then you are married/dating the wrong person- period.
Spot on, Lora!
I have been married almost 24 years (yes, it has lasted) and I could barely put it better than you.
My wife and I reciprocally “serve” each other. How true! This comes from, as you say, a deep bonding over time, which sprang from love.
We can only hope than the people who can’t see this will eventually marry/date the right person.
I am married, and totally agree! I think Kaley used a bad choice of words, but I know what she means…. more devotion than serving, but it goes both ways.
*projectile vomits*
why get on her case because of her choice of words, i think you’ve taken what she said out of context. when she said serve she probably meant serving food which is what you do when you cook for someone. If i cook food for someone i’ll serve it up to them, its not that she meant serve as in being his devoted slave or servant. look at it in the context of what she was saying in the first place, she was talking about cooking food so clearly she meant serving food when she said she liked serving her husband. she has simply used a poor choice of words and because she’s a celebrity people are going to jump on her for it? she’s a person for christsake.
I think it’s completely acceptable to cook and feed your man… it doesn’t mean you aren’t a feminist. Taking care of somebody doesn’t make you anti-feminist. It just means you enjoy equal treatment- which means she is a feminist. I think most people don’t understand the meaning of the word, her included.