Jada Pinkett Smith has always seemed like a closeted lesbian to me, and her marriage to Will Smith has been rumoured to be a sham pretty much since it began. Of course, I (and everyone else born with functioning eyes and brains) could be wrong, and that’s just fine, but interestingly enough, Jada took to her Facebook page earlier this month to question aloud why so many of “her friends” are embarking on lesbian relationships as they hit their 40s.
Before I begin…I want to make one thing clear. It’s important that you know that I believe love comes in ALL forms. I believe a person should love WHOMEVER…HOWEVER they choose. But…I do have a question.
In the last month, three women, in their 40s, coming out of long term relationships with men have confided in me that they now feel that their last resort for companionship is that with a woman. These are women who have never engaged in or even desired to be in intimate relationships with other women. Now these women feel as though they have no other option. It seems as if there is a spike in same sex love all around. What is changing in which how men and women are relating to one another, that is creating same sex love as a LAST RESORT for heterosexual women?
Methinks, once again as it always is in situations like this, that the lady doth protest too much. To say that you support all types of relationships and then to use language that’s obviously attempts to cheapen or disregard certain ones (“last resort for companionship”?) is ridonk. There are lots of reasons women (or men!) might not come into themselves sexually – or at least be able to express physically what they’ve always known about themselves – until they are older. Especially when there are people in the world who would discriminate against you, hate you or at the very least talk shit about your life as if they had to live it if you were to come out and be honest about the fact that, hey! you’re a woman who loves another woman or a man who loves a man. What the hell difference does it make? It’s 2013, but I sometimes feel like it’s f-cking caveman times.
Also, how in the world does Jada know if a woman has ever desired to be with another woman? Like this chick knows everyone’s deepest desire of their souls? Newsflash: If they only just felt confident embarking on these new relationships, chances are they kept the desire secret for many years, or they would have done it sooner. Obviously there are the experimenters (I’ve known my share) but that’s a college thing, not a mid-life crisis thing.
I would never force someone out of the closet before they were ready, but if it put Jada on the path to self-acceptance and made her stop talking utter nonsense, I’d be all for it.