I’m not sure who’s more clueless about the real world: Kim Kardashian with her “Oops, I didn’t realize racism was a thing!” bullshit or Gwyneth Paltrow and her “Acting is so much harder than a 9 – 5 day job!” fuckery. Both of them are idiotic, to be sure, but the most offensive thing about their bullshit is the fact that they actually think they’re changing the world by spouting off nonsense.
Yes, Gwyneth actually implied (on several occasions, at that) that being an actress is super duper hard, and that in some other walk of life, she kinda wishes she worked a regular day job because it’s SO much easier than getting paid millions to shoot some scenes once a year. Since people basically called her out for being stupid, she decided to do the only thing there is TO do: Write a blog post on the Goop website about how she’s “ending the Mommy Wars” by… not actually doing anything.
A few weeks ago during an interview, I was asked why I have only worked on one film a year since having children. My answer was this: Film work takes one away from home and requires 12-14 hours a day, making it difficult to be the one to make the kids their lunch, drive them to school, and put them to bed. So I have found it easier on my family life to make a film the exception, and my 9-5 job the rule. This somehow was taken to mean I had said a 9-5 job is easier, and a lot of heat was thrown my way, especially by other working mothers who somehow used my out-of-context quote as an opportunity to express feelings (perhaps projected) on the subject. As the mommy wars rage on, I am constantly perplexed and amazed by how little slack we cut each other as women. We see disapproval in the eyes of other mothers when we say how long we breastfed (Too long? Not long enough?), or whether we have decided to go back to work versus stay home. Is it not hard enough to attempt to raise children thoughtfully, while contributing something, or bringing home some (or more) of the bacon? Why do we feel so entitled to opine, often so negatively, on the choices of other women? Perhaps because there is so much pressure to do it all, and do it all well all at the same time (impossible). Below is a somewhat radical piece by Brigid Schulte, which has provoked many a discussion here in our HQ, and even a tear or two.
Yeah, I get that the press can twist your words and make a big deal out of nothing. However, I also get that Gwyneth Paltrow is a privileged and entitled woman with no concept of how the real world actually exists, so sorry, homegirl, I’m not buying what you’re selling.