Jennifer Lopez was married twice before she got engaged to Ben Affleck back in the early 2000s, but she still counts him as her first real heartbreak. They broke up in 2004 and JLo moved on quickly, but that doesn’t mean she wasn’t completely destroyed by the end of their relationship.
From US Weekly:
In a new interview with Maria Shriver, set to air on the Today show on Nov. 3 and 4, the “Booty” singer shared just how devastated she was to part ways with the Gone Girl actor.
The revelation came during a discussion about Lopez’s new memoir, True Love, when Shriver noted how quick the star was to move on with another man after her broken engagement to Affleck. (Bennifer broke up in January 2004; by June of that year, the American Idol host was married to third husband Marc Anthony, with whom she later had twins Max and Emme, 6.)
“Right, you’re absolutely right,” Lopez, 45, told Shriver. “It was probably my first big heartbreak, and to have one of my best friends who I’d known for years, who I actually love and did have chemistry with, come into my life and say, ‘I’m here’…What you need to know is, nobody can save you or heal you,” she continued. “Only you can do that for you.”
The “First Love” singer has gotten better about that over time, but old habits die hard. “It’s still a work in progress for me. It’s how you feel as a child, you know, being a middle child and kind of being invisible sometimes, or, you know, trying to get the attention,” she explained.
“So what did I do? I overachieved,” she continued. “I was the one who ran track and I won medals every weekend. Or I was the one who would go on the show and steal the show. And that would give me confidence. But there was a part of me that just wanted love, that felt like she wasn’t worthy of the love.”
I love when celebs get all emo and self-reflective. That’s something most people work out on their own, in a journal or with a therapist, but celebs need the public validation of their emotions (meta in this instance, I know), so it’s extra ironic. I do like Jennifer Lopez, though, and I’m glad she got away from Marc Anthony. He always really creeped me out.
I wonder why she’s getting crazy over Ben Affleck again, though. Could it be that scene in Gone Girl that’s making her nostalgic? Heh.