Ever since Obama endorsed gay marriage earlier this week, so many celebrities have come forward to discuss their opinions about it. Most of the reactions have been pretty predictable – Kim Kardashian made a blog post about how it made her proud to be an American, and Bristol Palin made her illogical, backwards comments about how we don’t need to “change thousands of years of thinking about marriage” – but a couple were a little surprising. Namely, the reaction that the cast of that darling show, Sister Wives, had:
“I feel like we should be more enlightened as a society,” says Kody Brown, the 44-year-old husband to Meri, 41, Janelle, 42, Christine, 40, and Robyn, 33, and father of 17 children.
Kody said he doesn’t want legislators governing marriage.
“I married four women and I love them,” he said. “I chose this out of love and out of faith. I feel like I want to extend that to all people…Let individuals define their love and their marriage. I don’t want the government doing that.”
Asked if their beliefs extend to gay couples, Kody said, “Let individuals define their marriage and let individuals choose who they love.”
Christine added, “I think marriage is a wonderful opportunity to share your life with somebody that you love. I want all our children to marry who they love, too.”
Janelle praised Obama for his historic remarks yesterday. “He’s taking a lot of heat for it, but it was very brave of him,” she said.
And the Browns know a thing or two about taking a lot of heat. They’ve been shunned by the mainstream public and even fellow polygamists for starring in a reality show. (The third season of Sister Wives kicks off on Sunday—yes, Mother’s Day!)
“Polygamists are such a private society, culture,” Kody said. “It’s been very vulnerable to present yourself to the public and ask them to be OK with you. Sometimes its sad and sometimes it’s very rewarding, but it was scary because you feel like you’re standing in a football field naked and everyone is in the grandstand’s looking at you.”
Despite watching the first two seasons of Sister Wives on Netflix this week, I never really put much thought into what their stance on this topic would be. I’m glad that they’re supportive though, even if it feels like it’s mostly to support their own not-so-traditional views on marriage*. And just so we’re clear, this means that the Sister Wives are better than the Palins. Just in case that was ever a debate.
*They’re not as scary as the more traditional, creepy polygamists, and it’s obvious that the women are happy in their situation, but yeah, they’re wacky. There was this one episode where Kody took one of the wives to dinner for their anniversary, and she asked him to understand that she had some issues with jealousy over the new wife and to have patience with her as she came to terms with that, and he was like “I don’t understand why you’re jealous.” She tried to explain that while she chose this lifestyle and she was happy, that it was natural to feel a bit of jealousy when you see your husband courting a new lady, and then she asked him what he would think if she married another dude or two. Immediately he was like “that’s disgusting, that makes me ill to think about, it goes against the laws of nature, how could you even say that?” Wacky. As. Hell.
May 12, 2012 at 9:00 am by Emily
Because according to the Sister Wives, “it’s a girl party.”
If you watch Sister Wives, you can probably see how this would be the case. Remember when the first three wives went on that camping trip with all the kids while Kody and Robyn went on their honeymoon, or how they all went to pick out that claddagh ring for Robyn before the wedding? They seem pretty tight:
Robyn, who recently announced she’s pregnant, says a lot of women ask the question, “How can you do that? You must have no self esteem … You’re letting your husband – in their brains – cheat on you.”
But, she laughs, that’s simply not the case.
Being in a family of polygamists “really is all about the girl,” she insists.
If doubters open their minds, she says, “She’s gonna find it’s a girl party.”
Adds Meri, Brown’s first wife: “We can have a lot of fun no matter where we go – even if it is just the grocery store.”
I can see where the Brown’s brand of polygamy could be fun – you have your besties with you all the time, all in the family. You get to raise your kids together and raise each other’s kids. You don’t have to have some douchebag like Kody focusing 100% of his man-child attention on you. It could be a pretty sweet deal. On the other hand, hearing that your husband knocked up one of your besties? It seems like instinctively that’s got to suck, right?