After much consideration and soul-searching, Michael and I have arrived at the decision to divorce due to “Irreconcilable Differences.”
Divorce is terribly sad, painful and incomprehensible for children. It is not something we have decided lightly.
The hands-on style of parenting we practice played no role in the changes that led to this decision; relationships are complicated no matter what style of parenting you choose.
The main priority for us now is to make the transition to two loving homes as smooth and painless as possible. Our sons deserve parents committed to their growth and health and that’s what we are focusing on. Our privacy has always been important and is even more so now, and we thank you in advance for respecting it as we negotiate this new terrain.
We will be ok.
The above statement was posted on Mayim’s blog, as I said, which is hosted on a Jewish online community website called ‘Kveller’, and I’ll be honest—as ‘Kveller’ is a somewhat-religious-themed forum, I really, really expected to see some disparaging, self-righteous comments about how man should not divide that which God has unified or whatever. I really did, sad as it is to say (don’t be misled, however; although I consider myself to be a spiritual person, I think divorce is divorce and there’s nothing wrong with it if it’s what’s necessary to keep people happy and healthy). But you know what? I was really, really pleased to see that *all* of the comments that came through (that were moderated, that is) were positive and supportive of Mayim and her husband’s decision to *not* continue their marriage.
I think we might actually be moving forward as a society, here, guys—I just hope I’m not speaking too soon.
… Or trash your meat—I guess that’d probably be the better way of putting it, right?
Here’s Mayim Bialik for PETA, and before you start writing her off as just another crazy, activist freak, watch the interview video:
Here’s the transcript if you can’t watch the video:
“Hi, I’m Mayim Bialik for PETA. I decided to team up with PETA for this campaign, largely because PETA sort of is the industry standard for veganism, and I think also, as a mom—as a mom of two vegan kids, I think it’s really important to put kind of a young mom face on this aspect of veganism, which has completely compatible with being a parent and raising healthy kids. One of the main inspirations for me towards a decision to complete veganism was Jonathan Saffran Foer’s ‘Eating Animals’, and I refer to that as the nail in the coffin for me. It was really after that book that I had both the education and the confidence, and the personal conviction to be able to say, ‘I don’t know where to draw the line anymore, I’m not going to draw it. I’m going to step over the line, and there’s been no turning back, and some of the best advice that I’ve ever gotten, is what I tell other people, and it’s actually information I got from PETA. Find the foods that already do not require meat. And find the foods that do not necessarily require dairy, or for what substitutes you can find that are palatable. So, my favorite question is when people say, ‘What do you eat?’ and I list all of the things that they also eat, just without thinking about it being vegan, so, pasta marinara, salad, and Mediterranean food in particular, and Asian food in particular. Those are things that often do not have meat or dairy as part of their ingredient list. There’s an age for children raised either vegan or not, where they start to put together the world, and their plate. We decided to kind of let it happen organically and went to gentle rescue farms with our boys. We take them places where we describe what happens to the animals before, but some were left to die on the side of the road, that some were used and abused and when they weren’t needed anymore, and nobody cared about them. There was two major shifts for me when I became vegan. I never had a sinus infection or had been on antibiotics since cutting out dairy. I’d obviously had an allergy to dairy that I’d had my whole life that was called “seasonal allergies,” but why are they all the time? It’s like every-season allergies. I’ve noticed that my true seasonal allergies are much less severe now that I have cut out dairy, which is amazing to me, but I think the most significant shift for me was I used to feel guilty. Even as a child, I felt very guilty about eating animals and never thought that there was something to do about it. And as I got older, it became clearer that there are things that there’s lots of things that I can do and traces I can make, and so, to me, the lifting of any guilt associated with consuming an animal, or using an animal for my clothing, or my pleasure, that guilt is completely gone.
I like your story, Mayim. I do. And I really, really like you, too. But there’s nothing you can say or do to convince me that PETA shouldn’t maybe change their campaigns around to be a little more people-friendly. I mean, are we going to have to start eating each other, eating other people, for PETA to realize that we humans are animals, too? PETA doesn’t have a bad message, though I do like myself some sausage and steak and milk and ice cream, but maybe if all of their promos were as person-friendly as Mayim’s here is, it’d be a little bit more well-received by the people who think they’re a bunch of freaks, you know?
As you guys are all probably aware, Mayim Bialik suffered some serious injuries the other day during a traffic accident, where she was hit almost head-on when a carful of L.A. tourists inadvertantly blasted her white Volvo with their vehicle. Mayim was rumored to have grevious injuries to both of her hands, and sources around the scene claimed that one of her fingers was practically hanging off, and to that I say, “Yikes.”
Mayim, however, has a lot more things to say than I do, naturally—things a lot more eloquent than just yikes, too, but that’s what you get when you mix Blossom and Amy Farrah Fowler and a lady that I love. From Mayim’s blog, a post that she titled “I Had An Accident & Thank God I’m Okay”:
I had a horrible accident. I will be okay. I have all my fingers but a very impaired right hand. It was very bloody and scary but I am ok. A man named Tim and another man whose name I don’t know saved me from losing a lot of blood and helped me talk to my husband at the scene. I am grateful to them.
I am a deeply religious person who used prayer and deep breathing to keep me going all the way from the accident to the ER to surgery 6 hours later, no medication until surgery.
I didn’t tear any artery, nerve, or tendons. It could have been so much worse. I will have a long recovery and my assistant Brandon will help type my blogs for now. He won’t write them, I’ll dictate.
I will be continuing on The Big Bang Theory with no weeks off; they are so good to me and I love my job and the support I get from my buddies on the cast and our loving staff and crew.
I implore you to not trust gossip media. And don’t support publications who use photos from photographers hiding in my driveway. That’s just not cool.
This Shabbat, appreciate your body. Appreciate the capacity for strength. And please drive safely.
You can trust us, though, Mayim. Because we think you’re a wonderful lady, and we have nothing but sincere concern for you and your digits. Granted, I *may* run photographs of you in your driveway, but I promise—don’t take it personally. We just want to see as much of you as we can … just not your very bloody hands. We’re not into that, guaranteed.