Women are so unforgiving of themselves. We don’t recognize our own beauty because we’re too busy comparing ourselves to other people. No, we are not all Gisele Bündchen; we’re not all Beyoncé. But I can tell you even the most beautiful girls in the world have felt insecure.
As for that high school mentality, if you’re still hanging around people who are going to put you down, you need to stop and reevaluate your friends and move on. You don’t need those kinds of people in your life. If some dumb bitch says you’re not beautiful, don’t go on her word. What does she matter? Sorry about the language. I know, I’m awful like that. But it’s all perspective.
The thing is, you’ve got to get dressed and say to yourself, “If somebody else doesn’t like it, f—k them.” You feel great, so work it, own it, and love it.
Sometimes it’s other people’s voices you have to shut out. That’s what happened with me and Christina Aguilera, which people don’t understand. She called me fat for years. One night on Fashion Police I said, “F—k you. Now you’re fat too.” I didn’t say I wasn’t fat. I said, “Now you know how it feels.” And I’m sorry, but I stand by that. I make a point on the show never to say anything about anybody that I wouldn’t say directly to their face. I’m famous, and she’s famous; it doesn’t mean I can’t stand up for myself. I took it for 10 years and finally decided to be like, “You know what? I’m done.” And that’s the last thing I will ever say about it.
This is bothersome because Kelly wrote an entire essay about feeling good about yourself and not judging yourself and not listening when other people try to put you down. She even mentions how much it hurt when people used to bully her for her weight. And after all that, she still feels the need to bring up the whole Christina Aguilera nonsense. I don’t care if Christina taunted Kelly every day for years, if she sent letters and emails and texts all about how Kelly was a fatty fat fat bitch, that’s still an awful thing to do. If you’ve been bullied so much and hurt so much for this one thing, how could you ever put that on someone else?
It’s also annoying because Kelly’s treating being fat like it’s this horrible awful thing. She said about Christina “f-ck you, now you’re fat too,” presumably meaning that now she was in that lowly place of being a big ol’ fat bitch. And if you try to put down one person by calling them fat, then you’re putting down all the fat people. Big girls, you know what I’m talking about: have you ever had a friend go on and on about some disgusting, gross, fat whale? And you’re like I’m sitting right here. This is that same thing.
You can’t try to tell all these people to love themselves and to have confidence in their bodies when you’re shaming someone else for her’s. That’s just not the way that works.