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Patrick Swayze’s Widow Writes a Tell-All

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So Lisa Niemi, Patrick Swayze‘s wife of something like 30+ years, wrote a memoir about her life with Swayze and enduring the effects of his illness and subsequent death. And it’s sad, guys. Really, really sad. Like, “shed some tears in the morning even after you’ve had that fourth cup of coffee” sad. I think it’s one of those things where it’s like, “Yeah, it was sad that Patrick Swayze died, and damn, wasn’t Dirty Dancing so f-cking awesome?”, but it’s really way more than that. I don’t think people realized how fully awesome Patrick was (as was his relationship with Lisa), and how much of a someone amazing was lost when Patrick passed in 2009.

Ugh. Anyway. From Worth Fighting For, Lisa Niemi on first meeting Swayze:

We were so different from each other, and yet so much alike. I was 14 years old when I first laid eyes on him at Houston Music Theatre, when his mother’s dance school merged with my theatre group. Patrick was tanned, buff, had a dazzling smile and a reputation as a Casanova. I wasn’t just a wallflower; I was an expert, practised wallflower. Our first contact came when we passed each other coming in and out of the theatre, and he reached over and pinched me on the bottom. “Hey there, cutie!” he said in a friendly yet mischievous tone. “Oh, brother.” I rolled my eyes as he passed me.

Little did she know she’d spend the next couple of decades at his side. Later in the book, Lisa talked about how Swayze proposed, and how they moved to LA to pursue their shared dream of the performing arts:

We’d been living together in a tiny brownstone apartment in New York City. Then, in the middle of a tickling fight, he paused, his arms around me. “What?” I asked curiously. His face flushed. “Why don’t we do it? Why don’t we get married?” And on June 12, 1975, we did. From being dancers, we went to working in the theatre, from theatre we moved to Los Angeles for film. We were off to the races. We were living and pursuing our dreams.

The book becomes significantly darker, as Niemi shares what it was like for Patrick to be diagnosed, and then later, treated, for pancreatic cancer:

Over New Year 2008, we were visiting friends in Aspen and raised a glass of champagne for a toast. Patrick grimaced a little when he swallowed but didn’t say anything. A week later, he came to me on a Sunday afternoon, “Do my eyes look yellow to you” I peered curiously. “Yes, yes, they do look yellow?.?.?. Let’s get you to the doctor first thing tomorrow.” Patrick had tests and scans; the results came through the same afternoon. And an alarm sounded inside our heads. There was a 2in-by-1½in mass on the head of his pancreas. What? What does this mean? The doctor was hesitant about guessing. But we pushed. “We-e-l-l-l, it could be cancer,” he said.

As we all know, the final diagnosis ended up being cancer, and Swayze lived only a year more after the heartbreaking news, despite his aggressive medical treatment, return to television, and continued ranch work on the couple’s property in New Mexico:

In late June, we joined friends at what we called the “Burro Pasture” for a round-up of the cattle, doctoring and branding the new calves near the Tecolote river. We gathered up about 30 mamas and their young. Patrick, dressed in his cowboy gear and chaps, jumped on a horse well-trained for cattle work to start roping and bringing calves over to be treated. All the cowboys at the ranch like to do things the old-fashioned way. Then it started to rain. One of our freezing afternoon thunder-showers. Patrick was soaked to the bone. We were wet and cold as we hurried to load the horses, grab our overcoats, and get in our cars. What the hell. We were having fun! I have to say inside I was laughing. I was laughing happily because he wasn’t even supposed to be alive. And here he was, doing ranch work, fully living his life. … Every day was a living victory.

Just a few weeks later, Patrick would pass away at his shared home with Niemi:

Patrick spoke his last words on Friday evening. My brother, Eric, and his wife, Mary, came through the bedroom door, and a woozy Patrick looked up, pleased to see them. “Heeeyyyy, Eric and Mary…” My last words to Patrick? “I love you,” and those were his last words to me. After I brought him home, things went very fast. In the quiet of Monday morning, September 14, I looked at his face and listened to the tiny sips of air he was taking. There was something delicate, childlike about it. I knew it was time.

I didn’t want to leave the room. I was afraid that suddenly I’d be afraid. I lay back at [my] Buddy’s side, I held his hand and felt his pulse again?…?was it??…?was it? And then he didn’t breathe any more.

Ugh. Screw you – you can laugh at me all you want, I can’t lie: I’m wrecked after reading this.

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  • It’s devastating to lose someone to such an illness. I can’t even imagine what it must have been like for her and him knowing he would not get better… It was sad to see him go and it’s even sader to read this now.

  • It was difficult to watch him deteriorate, but it was cool that he didn’t just go away and die. I saw him on tv during his treatments and he still had that gorgeous smile.

    I miss him…

  • I’ll admit, it’s very very said, and I’ve had to go through this scene several times in my life. He was a class act. None of the tabloid BS (which admittedly y’all make a living offa, but there has to be some exceptions), he was straight up right to the very end. God bless him and his family.

  • Thank you Buddy for bringing joy to all of our lives. Thanks for teaching me gymnastics. Thanks for being my friend. Thanks for all the special things you did for me to make my life easier. Thank you Lisa for taking care of Buddy. I love you.

    –Margaret

    Daughter of Ballet Teacher Hilary Kelley (Mt. Vernon Ballet Co.)